How to help people in the group

It’s 100% one of my favourite things about this group, the way we all help and guide each other. 🫶

There’s just something so special about having a space where you can ask a question, share an outfit, or post a dilemma and know you’ll get thoughtful replies from other women who get it.

That said, I know it can sometimes feel a bit overwhelming knowing what to say or how to reply. So I thought I’d use today’s Joy Drop to share a little guidance on how we can keep this space kind, supportive, and confidence-boosting for everyone. 💛

Here are a few little ‘rules’ I stand by when I’m asking or answering questions in here:

Don’t give an opinion unless it’s asked for

No one wants to post an outfit they feel amazing in, only to be told it’s not to someone’s taste. We all have different styles — and that’s a good thing! Differences don’t need correcting. If someone is simply sharing an outfit, cheer them on. If they ask for opinions or suggestions, then it’s fair game with kindness.

Advice is different

If someone posts a “what should I wear with this?” or “do these shoes go?” type of question, then they’re inviting help, so go for it! Feel free to offer suggestions, links, colour pairings, outfit tweaks, etc. Just try to keep it in their style and vibe (not what you would wear instead).

Lead with encouragement

Even if you’re offering a tweak or suggestion, start by highlighting what’s working. “You look amazing in that colour!” or “Such a great silhouette on you!” goes a long way. I always think we take feedback better when it’s wrapped in something kind — and honestly, there’s always something kind to say.

If you spot a Joy Drop or post that might help someone, tag us!

If someone asks a question and you remember a Joy Drop or post that covered it maybe from before that person joined, feel free to tag me or Kate in the comments (in case we’ve missed it). We’ll happily jump in and help.

Share your journey too

You don’t have to have it all figured out to help someone else. When you share your own challenges, wins, or “this worked for me” moments in the group it can be incredibly encouraging to others. This space isn’t about being perfect, it’s about learning and growing together.

Keep suggestions practical

If you're offering advice, try to keep it realistic and doable. For example: “Try a longer necklace to break up the block of colour” is often more helpful than “That top doesn’t suit you.” The goal is to support, not overwhelm (though to be fair, I don’t think I have ever seen anyone in the group do this!)

Ask questions, not just give answers

One of the things I see so often in the group is that sometimes the most helpful response isn’t advice, it’s a curious question that helps the person reflect. Try things like: “How do you feel in this outfit?” or “What were you hoping this would look like?” before jumping to a suggestion.

And just in case you need the reminder, here are a few ways you can use this Facebook group:

💬 #Askthecommunity for help finding something specific, just include your budget, colour season, body shape, and any other details you have.
📸 Get input on an outfit, colour pairing, or how to style a tricky piece.
❓ Post general questions like “What’s a good basic to add for spring?” or “Any tips for layering?”
🎨 Ask about colours, if you're unsure whether something suits your season, pop it in!
🧠 Get styling advice, whether it’s a quick check-in or a “what am I missing?” kind of moment.
🎉 Share your wins or favourite outfits, we ALL love seeing them!

✨ And remember: there’s no such thing as a silly style question in here.
Whether it’s “do navy and black go?” or “is this dress flattering on me?” if you’re wondering, chances are someone else is too.

And if you’re facing something trickier or want more personalised help, I’m now offering one-to-one styling advice for deeper questions or ongoing support. I’ll share more next week with some examples of what that looks like!